The Family

The Family
Colossians 1:9-14

(1) We need to understand that we must allow the Lord to choose our spouse – Matthew 6:33

– As believers, the top priority in our life is Jesus Christ

– Matthew 6:33 – the word FIRST means priority

– Jesus is our priority because we need His direction, wisdom and guidance and choices…

– How do we know it is His choice – wait a long time and there will be fruit

– Our choices before we were saved and after we were saved
(2) WE MUST UNDERSTAND THERE IS AN ENEMY – Zech 3:1-5

a. Our enemy is invisible
– demons cannot be seen, but they are present

– Not everything is from the enemy, but some things are

– We must fight the enemy. How should we fight?
(1) Fight Spiritually – prayer, fasting, the Word of God, authority of the believer, stay filled
(2) Fight Verbally – by making God and Bible declarations
(3) Fight Physically
– Do whatever it takes to have an awesome marriage

– Exhaust all efforts continually
(4) Fight Mentally

– Resist and replace any thought against the Word, the Lord and your marriage and family

(3) WE MUST UNDERSTAND THE #1 NEED OF A MAN AND A WOMAN –
A. The Woman – Prov 31:28-29

AFFECTION is the #1 need of every female or woman…….

– All women have a deep seated need and tenderness for tenderness and focused attention
– What is affection? holding hands…kindness…tell her you love her daily/weekly dates
The principle of Blast off and Re – entry……..
– Blast off is when the man leaves the house in the morning

– Re-entry is when the man entries back into the home after work
B. The Man
– The #1 need of the man is admiration – 1 Peter 3:5-6 & Proverbs 31:12

– Beside every man there must be an admiring woman

Admire – speaks of honor, esteem, value and appreciation
How does the female – wife admire the man – husband?

(1) Find something your husband does well and verbalize it
(2) Speak good things about your husband privately and publicly
(3) Appreciate you husband for how far he has come
(4) Let you husband know that there is great future ahead for both of you
* Wives must also implement the blast off and re-entry principle for the husband…